This Bothers Me...

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This Bothers Me...

My Catholic mother has a MUCH bigger problem with my lack of belief in her god than she does of her adopted daughter's Wiccan belief in multiple gods and goddesses.  Both myself and her adopted daughter disagree with her belief, but I'm more of an "asshole" because I don't believe in any god.  Any thoughts?


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Since you expect logic,

Since you expect logic, reason and evidence for a god before you can believe, you are much harder to convert.

Wicca and Catholicism are closer to each other than you may think. 

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It may be a "belief in

It may be a "belief in belief," which could be a harder nut to crack than religion itself.


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magilum wrote: It may be a

magilum wrote:
It may be a "belief in belief," which could be a harder nut to crack than religion itself.

 

Yeah pretty much.  A friend of mine (who is a Thelemite) asked me, "Why do people not just act on impulse", when he found out I was an atheist.  I said something I can't remember because I was in shock from what he said.  He also said something about atheism being a copout.

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She probally thinks you are

She probally thinks you are gonna be more difficult to bring back into the light, perhaps her daughter will figure out shes only worshipping demons and re-convert. In her mind anyway.

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CrazyRoper wrote:   A

CrazyRoper wrote:

  A friend of mine (who is a Thelemite)

Holy shit!  A real, live Thelemite!?!?!  Is she a member of the Ordo Templi Orientis

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My suggestion to you is to

My suggestion to you is to not ever let anyone make you react emotionally.  I live in the heart of the Bible belt and make no secret of my atheism.  I only tell people when they ask a question that requires that I say so to avoid dishonesty. 

 When I tell them I am an atheist I do so in the same manner that I would tell them that I am a machinist.  I have not lost a friend because of it.

 I think most atheists get very defensive and come across as hostile.  Bad move.  It is bad for friendships and bad for atheism.  I am 71 years old and my son-in-law, who is a true believer, asked me if we were Christians.  I very blandly said no, that we didn't believe in any supernatural being.  No problem.  There would have been if I had started emotionally defending my beliefs as a Christian would do.

If anyone asks me why I am an atheist I tell them but do so in a friendly, unemotional way.  It works.  I think one reason it works so well is that there are fewer true believers than you would think.  I think the majority just go along to get along and have very serious doubts.


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CrazyRoper wrote: magilum

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magilum wrote:
It may be a "belief in belief," which could be a harder nut to crack than religion itself.

 

Yeah pretty much. ...

 

I'm going to hop on this bandwagan as well.  My mother in law is fine as long as my wife believes in "something" and "has faith"

Most theists see faith as a virtue and they want their friends and/or family to have that "virtue".  Your wiccan sibling has faith in their deities which is probably why your mother has more of a problem with you. 

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Thanks for all the

Thanks for all the comments.  It's put it in a little bit better perspective for me. 


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Nero wrote: CrazyRoper

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CrazyRoper wrote:

A friend of mine (who is a Thelemite)

Holy shit! A real, live Thelemite!?!?! Is she a member of the Ordo Templi Orientis?

 

Heh yeah he is. 

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Quote: Both myself and her

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Both myself and her adopted daughter disagree with her belief, but I'm more of an "asshole" because I don't believe in any god. Any thoughts?

In addition to the thoughts that have already been contributed (because I think they're pretty accurate) you should also bear in mind that you're her real son and she's not her real daughter.

I know it's not supposed to make a difference, and she says she loves you both, but the jury's in on adoption. There is most definitely a difference between adopted and natural children. It might not be a huge deal in your family specifically, but it is a real effect, and it would be kind of silly to dismiss it because it's your family and you know better. After all, everyone says that!

 

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