non cohesive - demons in the mail
I just saw this blog feature and thought I'd vent a little.
My boyfriend's mom sent us a letter in a pink envelope with curlique handwriting. And on the inside, pictures of burning demons. She made sure to highlight the areas about "living in sin"
But it scares me. His mom tells me that technically, according to her church, she's not even supposed to speak with us because we live in sin. That's so effed up! Telling people to sever relationships with children because of their life's choices??? Dammit.
I mean, it works for me because personally, the less that I get bothered by parent-in-law type people, the better. Fine, don't talk to me, see if I really care. But still, I have a daughter, and if a group told me that I couldn't talk to her anymore, I'd tell them to sit and spin. And I'm sure there's be multiple f-bombs.
I lost my daughter for a few years, I know what it's like. My mom blackmailed me and took her and I had to work really really hard to get her back. And still, i got her back, but if I "screw up" she can call the cops and say I'm kidnapping. (it's all very trailerpark, i know)
I know what it's like to have a child out there that you can't have a relationship with, and it's totally devistating. And for a religion to just blindly tell parents to do that. Fuck!
Where is the love there?
So, his mom had been cool up until now. Every time I saw her it was "when are you getting married" and blah blah blah. And I kept saying to my boyfriend "she's going to try and convert us, I can just feel it" and he would always say "no, that's a line my mom knows not to cross again" blah blah blah.
3 1/2 years later - hilarious little demons in the mail
but also, in 3 1/2 years, I appealed to his reason and he went from trying to convert me to christianity, to trying to convince others of atheism, so score on that one.
3 1/2 years ago, those demons might have been taken seriously instead of giggled at a ripped in half.
It's not the demons that bother me, it's the idea that she'd risk the precarious little relationship that she has with her son for something so rediculous. I mean, did she really think that sending judgemental messages and burning demons was going to make ryan drive me over the the jp and get a quicky marriage?
I'm not getting married because of fucking demons! And you can't guilt trip me with them either. Make me laugh, yes, but change my life, no. It just lowers my opinion of you.
So, is there a message, a lesson, a debate? Not really, just a story about a former JW, his mom and a really grouchy atheist (me).
Venting - over and out - if anyone reads this, sorry for lack of cohesiveness, I'm a crappy blogger