Funerals: evidence from the human mind
I went to a funeral yesterday. It was a very sad experience and I cried when my friend got up to speak about her son.
He was her first born. He was twenty years old and just getting his life started.
I didn't know him. I had only met him a few times. He was a nice guy. Some one who you'd like to hang around because he was quiet and gentle.
Seeing how his passing had an effect on the two hundred and fifty people who showed up I suspect that my impressions of him were correct.
There was a lot of crying going on. A lot of sad people.
When loved-ones leave we are sad. I've seen in extreme cases, military people leave their families behind and there is a lot of crying. People don't like to see their most loved, most cherished friends and family leave.
In most cases they know that they will return eventually and they might think that, in cases of war, that they might not return.
Therefore the level of sadness/tears are more intense.
If a person dies, those people who loved and cherished them the most will cry. Their crying is very intense, which shows the level of their sadness.
They know, deep inside their mind, that this person is gone. They know that there is zero percent that they will return.
Over time, the further away we are away from that moment of death, the level of sadness/crying lessens. Over time it will, in almost all cases, stop completely.
There will be different levels of "I miss them" feelings among family and friends, but people eventually drift back to the ignorance.
For non-believers or believers this level of crying/sadness is the same.
It is a human response and I find it to be natural. Only psychopaths and other forms of emotional disconnection don't feel the same.
I submit as evidence, that the level of sadness/crying after a loved one passes indicates that deep inside the human mind, we know that those loved ones are gone forever. We know there is no heaven. We know there is no life ever lasting.
If there were such places/beings then we would not be sad/cry. We would know that the loved one is only gone for a short time and we would be reunited with them. Death would be no different than having your spouse drive down to the supermarket to get a pint of milk.