The news today had a blurb about the so-called Purity Movement. Some school group is sponsoring "purity" dances and such, and the kids are supposed to sign documents swearing that they won't have sex until marriage. According to the news report, 88% of the kids who signed the pledge, went on to have sex before marriage.
One of the girls was quoted as saying (paraphrased from memory) "my father has control of me, and when I marry my husband will have control of me."
EVery fiber of my being, and every experience I have ever had or heard of, supports the notion that such archaic attitudes, and the ignorance it fosters, leads to more trouble, more disease, and more pain for the girls. I have less knowledge about the experience of the boys. But girls who are not allowed to learn about sex early on (not have it, learn about it) are often doomed to suffer date rape, hurt feelings, misunderstandings, or the lack of sexual response as an adult, because no one bothered to help her understand what was happening. Now, I'm not a big fan of "free sex". Even forgetting the disease aspect, trivializing something that can be so beautiful when between people who love each other, seems counterproductive. But it still boils down to the fact that what happens between consenting adults is none of my business. And that we should all have information so that we can make our own, informed decisions about it.
Anyway. How can these people be so ignorant? How can they swing so far backwards to the dark ages of patriarchy, power-over, and keeping children ignorant of natural processes? It obviously isn't working. Why don't they understand that knowledge is power? That ignorance leads to pain and even worse?
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