Why is it always about the atheism?
I had the misfortune to go to a Catholic School for 11th and 12th grade. I went to a secular private boarding school in 9th and 10th...
Well it's now time for the 10 year reunion. I use a wheelchair - I didn't in HS but I do now for reasons I'll skip to keep this on point. The boarding school's reunion was earlier this year. I didn't think I would go. I was sick coming up to it and from what I remembered the campus was not very friendly to wheelchairs. A week beforehand I called just to see. Told them I was semi-interested in going and believe it or not this school changed all the weekend events for my class to accessiable locations. I was surprised how much the school had changed - putting in ramps and what not - and had a great time.
I had intended to go to the Catholic school reunion for some time. I started writing to them about a year ago - in regards to my disability. I even offered to plan the reunion myself. I never received a response until about 3 months ago. They told me they had not picked a location for the dinner and would take my disability into consideration. They said they would welcome my help and be in touch. Another student was also disabled since graduating however she heard that they knew about me so she didn't write in.
Well believe it or not they scheduled the reunion in a place that was not accessible. When I brought this up they didn't actually apologize (not right away at least). They wanted to know all the 411 on my disability. When I wouldn't answer all their questions (not because I was hiding anything but because my detailed medical history would not eliminate the flight of stairs in the chosen venue), they proceeded to contact my "friends" on facebook/myspace and ask them "what was wrong with me." Well how many people are really best buddies with every "friend" on myspace... I hadn't talked to these people in 10 years and all they could do after all this time was flood me with e-mails that said "What's wrong with you?"
They just had to inform me about the alumni mass at this point. I told them I wasn't Catholic (didn't want to set them off with the A word) and neither was my fiance but even if we were, a mass really isn't the time and place to be reuniting with people you haven't seen in 10 years.
I told the school to take me off their lists. I was humilated and they weren't going to change the location anyway. I wanted no part in it. At this point they apologized. Well, too little, too late. I told them: "When I graduated I wished I had spent 4 years at XXX but now I'm glad I only spent two years there because when someone asks me 'Where did you go to high school?' I can give them an answer that is not XXX."
They didn't take me off all their lists - they say it's because they assumed I still wanted the alumni newsletter - I told them to save the trees. (Just between us - I like Cottonelle better than their newsletters anyway. ) Anyway, they sent out a mass e-mail that everyone has to reply to publically stating if they are going to the reunion or not. So my inbox is now full of repeated reminders that I have been excluded. To make matters worse, I received this yesterday:
Did you see (reunion planner name deleted) EMail today? I will forward it to you. I really think you should just let all this silly stuff go and come to the reunion. We would love to see you. I know she did not change the location but if you asked nicely she still has time to. I'm sorry atheism has changed you.
Yours in Christ! (Author name deleted)
Can someone please tell me what "atheism" has to do with not going to a reunion because I was excluded based on my disability? Last I checked disabilities spanned every religion or lack thereof.
Among other things - I've said this to them:
"I would really hope that future reunions correspond more closely to the mission of the school and the legacy of St. Frances." (The school has a big thing about Mr. Frances...)
In closing, I just want to add that basically these people F-ed up. I wasn't an atheist in HS and I haven't really talked to them since. They basically saw it on my myspace/facebook profile and decided to use my atheism for a scapegoat of their mistake. Things like this make me think after they F-ed up they then decided to keep up the discrimination solely because of the religion column on my profile. Why is it always about the atheism?