So I went to my first BDSM party...

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So I went to my first BDSM party...

The wife and I have been checking out this local kink group.

Basically my wife wants me to domme her so we are exploring that avenue. I'm like, ok, I'm cool with kink. Whatever works for you.

I'm pretty vanilla. Standard horn-dog, red blooded male. But if you want to be flogged I can go that rout.

Anyway, these people are crazy.

Actually they are much less slimey than I presupposed. I assumed it would be filled with a lot of creepers and people of objectional morality.

It's not like that at all. They're all pretty calm and mature, relaxed.

So we went to this party, halloween type, on Saturday, and this guy's house is like a castle from the outside. On the inside it's like something from Silence of the Lambs.

There's chains everywhere, the walls consist of boards. I mean freaking boards, unpainted, unvarnished boards.

There's a cross in one room (not like the cross you think, basically two heavy, polished boards in an X shape with a base and chains. In other rooms there's a metal table like a surgical room, another room where there is a massage table and some "Master Fire Play" guy lighting people up. Like burning liquids on their skin even though no apparent damage seems to happen, people getting flogged, welts everywhere, people laid out (a minority), recovering from getting flogged, etc.

Just like, holy crap, what the heck is going on.

In the middle of this is my wife and myself. Dressed up in costume, a person right over there shackled to the cross, getting whipped, and this very prim and proper, wholesome looking young lady, dressed up like a girl from the 50's just hanging out and speaking so sweetly to us about very normal topics.

But then occasionally she starts speaking about things and using words that you don't say in polite company. But she says it just as innocently as the polite things.

I'm going insane, none of this makes sense compared to anything I've experienced before.

And this couple comes in, one is a dude who is dressed up like catwoman. Eww, ok. Good costume, you disturb me. Wearing your lipstick and high heels.

But his chik, wow was she amazing. She's dressed up like a female Joker of batman fame. Top hat, face painted white, deep, dark, blood red lips, a green and black corset with thick vertical stripes, pink and black hose with horizontal strips, a frilly short skirt, and a huge smile.

She just pranced around everywhere and we were all gushing over her.  I could have stared at her all night long.

Meanwhile girl number 4 is getting flogged by the host. This 6'8" dude, completely bald, probably about 300 lbs, late 40's, wearing military style pants.

Really nice guy. Really laid back. Flogging the crap out of yet another chik.

Another dude walking around with a shirt that says, "Ow is not a safe word."

It was a trip.
 

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i honestly thought there

i honestly thought there was no existing level of drunkeness, short of alcohol poisoning, i had never experienced, but there would have to be for me to tolerate more than 2 minutes of what you've described.  sorry, folks.  i will wallow in the lowest of dive bars, reeking of stale beer, as happy as a hog in slop, but apparently even i have limits...

 

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iwbiek wrote:i honestly

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i honestly thought there was no existing level of drunkeness, short of alcohol poisoning, i had never experienced, but there would have to be for me to tolerate more than 2 minutes of what you've described.  sorry, folks.  i will wallow in the lowest of dive bars, reeking of stale beer, as happy as a hog in slop, but apparently even i have limits...

Really?  Go figure.  Wasn't all that bad.

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Well Ted Haggart and Jim

Well Ted Haggart and Jim Baker wouldn't go. It was legal first off, and consentuall and they wouldn't get to lie to society or their partners.

Not my cup of tea, but as long as everyone is willing and people know the lines they cannot or should not cross, go for it.

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Watcher wrote:iwbiek wrote:i

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i honestly thought there was no existing level of drunkeness, short of alcohol poisoning, i had never experienced, but there would have to be for me to tolerate more than 2 minutes of what you've described.  sorry, folks.  i will wallow in the lowest of dive bars, reeking of stale beer, as happy as a hog in slop, but apparently even i have limits...

Really?  Go figure.  Wasn't all that bad.

i guess you had to be there.  it probably has something to do with the fact that, despite by general misanthropy, bluster, and grumpiness, i feel guilty even injuring a bug.  no matter how much someone assured me it's ok, i don't think i'd be able to flog a person.

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Watcher wrote: But if you

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 But if you want to be flogged I can go that rout.

 

Yes,  please

 

 


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iwbiek wrote:i guess you had

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i guess you had to be there.  it probably has something to do with the fact that, despite by general misanthropy, bluster, and grumpiness, i feel guilty even injuring a bug.  no matter how much someone assured me it's ok, i don't think i'd be able to flog a person.

It doesn't do anything for me either.  Either way.  Giving or receiving.  But some people just have this need or desire or something.

But hey, I really like my wife.  So if she needs a good flogging I'll give it to her.

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Cpt_pineapple wrote:Yes, 

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Yes,  please

I'll invite you to the next get together next month.  Smiling


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My wife isn't in to all of

My wife isn't in to all of that stuff, but I did date a young lady who was head over heels for all that kink; and I'll say it was a bunch of fun for me too.

I went to a sex party one time and it was in a huge house in a really high end, gated. guarded neighborhood. They were really secret about it all and it was almost like a job interview on my end. I guess they wanted to make sure I was "ok" and not some cop or something.

I experienced the same thing with this house as you did at your party. Each room was designated for various fetishes and they had hetero, bi, gay male and female, transsexual, trans-gender, RP, cosplay, partner swap, gang bang, orgy, circle jerks, BDSM, machine sex, glory holes, butake, etc, etc.

The home seemed to have endless rooms and we were welcomed to visit any room and partake in any of the events provided we didn't disturb any guests. If some of the rooms were locked we just went to the next one. Most of the rooms had chairs and you could sit and watch, wait your turn, etc.

No cameras were allowed and we had to surrender our cell phone at the door.

Some of the people were very well to do individuals who I was told worked in government and other positions of authority. I didn't recognize any one, but apparently kink is kink and it doesn't matter who you are; when you take your close off you are equals.

The strangest thing was that the food was incredible. It was all catered and they had a huge spread.

The party went on for hours and people came and went through out the evening. I heard they partied until the early hours of the morning.

 

 

 

 

 

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Well I didn't witness anyone

Well I didn't witness anyone having outright sex anywhere at this one.  One guy said that every party is totally different so I don't know what I'll encounter at the next one.

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Watcher wrote:Well I didn't

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Well I didn't witness anyone having outright sex anywhere at this one.  One guy said that every party is totally different so I don't know what I'll encounter at the next one.

As so it was like a "secret party" where they sell stuff?

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 I used to attend a similar

 I used to attend a similar group regularly, good times. Now I might go to one or two parties a year, I never really got into the S&M hardcore but find it enjoyable to be around and socialize with people who don't hide their sexuality. If I started dating someone who wanted to go I certainly would. I hate bringing people for their first time though, the last party I went to I brought a date and she really didn't like it and freaked out on me, kind of ruined the night. 

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Beyond Saving wrote: I used

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 I used to attend a similar group regularly, good times. Now I might go to one or two parties a year, I never really got into the S&M hardcore but find it enjoyable to be around and socialize with people who don't hide their sexuality. If I started dating someone who wanted to go I certainly would. I hate bringing people for their first time though, the last party I went to I brought a date and she really didn't like it and freaked out on me, kind of ruined the night. 

Did she know what she was going to? I would think that it would be best to not surprise a date or steady with this sort of gathering.

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digitalbeachbum wrote:Beyond

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 I used to attend a similar group regularly, good times. Now I might go to one or two parties a year, I never really got into the S&M hardcore but find it enjoyable to be around and socialize with people who don't hide their sexuality. If I started dating someone who wanted to go I certainly would. I hate bringing people for their first time though, the last party I went to I brought a date and she really didn't like it and freaked out on me, kind of ruined the night. 

Did she know what she was going to? I would think that it would be best to not surprise a date or steady with this sort of gathering.

She knew in the abstract, I'm not that big of a dick, but I don't think she really understood how intense it could be or just how crazy kinky some people are and considering how clean cut and conservative I generally am in public I don't think she took my warnings seriously beforehand. 

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 I never liked my sexual

 I never liked my sexual activities to be combined with gimmicks, props, fantasy or anything of that sort.  I know lots of other people enjoy that kind of stuff and that's okay for them.  The only quirk that I have is that my girl friend be naked.

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digitalbeachbum wrote:As so

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As so it was like a "secret party" where they sell stuff?

No, no one was selling anything.  Everyone was just hanging out.  But the occasional person was getting flogged, or caught on fire, or in aftercare, or mainly just chilling and talking about stuff.

Even that mild, I think both my wife and I were in overload from it all.

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As so it was like a "secret party" where they sell stuff?

No, no one was selling anything.  Everyone was just hanging out.  But the occasional person was getting flogged, or caught on fire, or in aftercare, or mainly just chilling and talking about stuff.

Even that mild, I think both my wife and I were in overload from it all.

Cool. I think I misunderstood you because the "flogging" is sexual/orgasmic for some people. I knew a girl who got off just getting whipped.

 

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digitalbeachbum wrote:Cool.

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Cool. I think I misunderstood you because the "flogging" is sexual/orgasmic for some people. I knew a girl who got off just getting whipped.

Yeah, well I thought before I went that I might see people going straight out with intercourse, but I didn't.

Flogging, fire play, and one scene in one room where a guy was using a sexual device on a girl.  But I didn't see any guys pull their wankers out.

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Mmmmm

 

I've always had a bit of a thing for having a prim lady over my knee.

If every one's consenting and no one gets more than mildly hurt, good-oh. 

Good description, too. You almost had me there, momentarily. 

 

 

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Cool. I think I misunderstood you because the "flogging" is sexual/orgasmic for some people. I knew a girl who got off just getting whipped.

 

Yeah, agree. My last ex but one delighted in no foreplay so much as a good, hard spanking.

Not sure why I broke up with her, in hindsight. Oh, yes. It was the thing with the razorblades... 

 

 

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Cool. I think I misunderstood you because the "flogging" is sexual/orgasmic for some people. I knew a girl who got off just getting whipped.

 

Yeah, agree. My last ex but one delighted in no foreplay so much as a good, hard spanking.

Not sure why I broke up with her, in hindsight. Oh, yes. It was the thing with the razorblades... 

Mine broke up with me... but I'm glad. She was bi-polar to the max along with other issues. I guess that is why she was beyond my level of kink.

 

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digitalbeachbum wrote:My

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My wife isn't in to all of that stuff, but I did date a young lady who was head over heels for all that kink; and I'll say it was a bunch of fun for me too.

I went to a sex party one time and it was in a huge house in a really high end, gated. guarded neighborhood. They were really secret about it all and it was almost like a job interview on my end. I guess they wanted to make sure I was "ok" and not some cop or something.

I experienced the same thing with this house as you did at your party. Each room was designated for various fetishes and they had hetero, bi, gay male and female, transsexual, trans-gender, RP, cosplay, partner swap, gang bang, orgy, circle jerks, BDSM, machine sex, glory holes, butake, etc, etc.

The home seemed to have endless rooms and we were welcomed to visit any room and partake in any of the events provided we didn't disturb any guests. If some of the rooms were locked we just went to the next one. Most of the rooms had chairs and you could sit and watch, wait your turn, etc.

No cameras were allowed and we had to surrender our cell phone at the door.

Some of the people were very well to do individuals who I was told worked in government and other positions of authority. I didn't recognize any one, but apparently kink is kink and it doesn't matter who you are; when you take your close off you are equals.

The strangest thing was that the food was incredible. It was all catered and they had a huge spread.

The party went on for hours and people came and went through out the evening. I heard they partied until the early hours of the morning. 

 

much of that sounds really cool, actually.  i just don't go in for the violent stuff.  i mean, i like a little rough sex and dirty talk, but nothing that draws blood or leaves angry-looking marks.  i really like women who obviously love sex and are empowered by it, so gangbanging or bukkake would be right up my alley, as long as the girl was enthusiastic.

my problem is i'm a romantic, so i couldn't just fuck a woman like a hunk of meat.  it wouldn't do anything for me.  i like talking my way into their trousers, and i like everybody to feel good about what they're doing.  as promiscuous as i could be when i was still single, i never left any hard feelings behind me, as far as i know.  i always preferred girls who weren't afraid to be somewhat emotionally involved, yet weren't any more interested in monogamy than i was.

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iwbiek wrote:digitalbeachbum

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My wife isn't in to all of that stuff, but I did date a young lady who was head over heels for all that kink; and I'll say it was a bunch of fun for me too.

I went to a sex party one time and it was in a huge house in a really high end, gated. guarded neighborhood. They were really secret about it all and it was almost like a job interview on my end. I guess they wanted to make sure I was "ok" and not some cop or something.

I experienced the same thing with this house as you did at your party. Each room was designated for various fetishes and they had hetero, bi, gay male and female, transsexual, trans-gender, RP, cosplay, partner swap, gang bang, orgy, circle jerks, BDSM, machine sex, glory holes, butake, etc, etc.

The home seemed to have endless rooms and we were welcomed to visit any room and partake in any of the events provided we didn't disturb any guests. If some of the rooms were locked we just went to the next one. Most of the rooms had chairs and you could sit and watch, wait your turn, etc.

No cameras were allowed and we had to surrender our cell phone at the door.

Some of the people were very well to do individuals who I was told worked in government and other positions of authority. I didn't recognize any one, but apparently kink is kink and it doesn't matter who you are; when you take your close off you are equals.

The strangest thing was that the food was incredible. It was all catered and they had a huge spread.

The party went on for hours and people came and went through out the evening. I heard they partied until the early hours of the morning. 

 

much of that sounds really cool, actually.  i just don't go in for the violent stuff.  i mean, i like a little rough sex and dirty talk, but nothing that draws blood or leaves angry-looking marks.  i really like women who obviously love sex and are empowered by it, so gangbanging or bukkake would be right up my alley, as long as the girl was enthusiastic.

my problem is i'm a romantic, so i couldn't just fuck a woman like a hunk of meat.  it wouldn't do anything for me.  i like talking my way into their trousers, and i like everybody to feel good about what they're doing.  as promiscuous as i could be when i was still single, i never left any hard feelings behind me, as far as i know.  i always preferred girls who weren't afraid to be somewhat emotionally involved, yet weren't any more interested in monogamy than i was.

She was in to spanking which was new for me. When she first told me to do it I was sort of, "hmmm how hard?" because I'm a big guy and (trying to be modest here) stronger than your average male.

When I spanked her she said harder. So I did it harder. She laughed. HARDER!! So I let her have a really hard one with an open hand. It was so hard the skin went red. "OH SORRY! DID I HURT YOU" but her moan let me know differently. She told me "perfect, now don't stop until I tell you to"...

It was weird, but I'm all for pleasing my partner provided it isn't animals, death defying or stuff like golden showers. I'm totally turned off by that stuff.

I used to be that way, the romantic, but I learned that romance lasts as long as great sex does; what matters is that you want to be with that person and they want to be with you. If either party doesn't really want to be there then it is not going to be as good.

I was engaged previously and ended the relationship pretty hard. I like taking the direct route in these sort of things. She was a racist and I couldn't stand her calling people niggers or spics. It was very embarrassing to me. She started to stalk me afterwards and it sort of was freaky. I later bumped in to her, like ten years later and she still hadn't let go. She made a big scene with me in front of her friends and mine.

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Cool. I think I misunderstood you because the "flogging" is sexual/orgasmic for some people. I knew a girl who got off just getting whipped.

 

Yeah, agree. My last ex but one delighted in no foreplay so much as a good, hard spanking.

Not sure why I broke up with her, in hindsight. Oh, yes. It was the thing with the razorblades... 

 

 

 

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