why i believe
From the very first week of existance God established MARRIAGE. He made Adam, and saw he was helpless, so from Adam God created Eve. Not as his servant, but as his partner-in-crime, his helper, his confidant. Im sure most of you are atheists partly because some "power-hungry" men in the past oppressed women in the name of the Lord.....BUT they Bible has nothing of the sort.....
Anyway, God created marriage between a MAN and a WOMAN as a direct example of Christ's relationship to the church. The church is the bride of Christ. The church is not a building....the bible definition of church is the body of believers. The Bible says that husbands are to love their wives as Christ loves the Church and gave Himself for it.
The wife in Song of Solomon 5:16 says "my beloved and my friend". Biblical marriage is not only a man and woman co-existing together, but its FRIENDSHIP. IMHO the straw that breaks the camel's back leading to divorce is LACK of FRIENDSHIP in marriages.
If a man saw his wife as his BEST friend he would not covet other women, he would not sit on his "two-pack" with a tv remote or PS3 controller in his hand. He would be SERVING her. lack of SERVING is another thing that destroys marriages. Secular Society (and infortunately some "pious" religious societies) are SELFISH rather than SELFLESS. People do what they want, when they want, how they want, because THEY want...."Forget my husband or wife, THEY don't understand MY desires"
This is the problem with athiests. "I don't have to be open and honest with my spouse"= I don't REALLY trust this person with my life.
"I can window shop, as long as I don't buy"=Majority of the time ends up in adultry
Why is divorce so devastating? Why is one or bother parties completely destroyed emotionally in a non-marital sexual relationship? The act of intercourse physically, emotionally, and spiritually bonds 2 individuals on such an intense level, that the Bible simply describes it as 2 become 1. THIS is why intercourse is reserved for marriage, because of that bond. Actually under the law of Moses if you slept with someone out of wedlock, you just married them.
Why do I believe this is all tried and true? My wife and I went through things only God could have gotten us through. I was not honest, and held things from my past from her out of fear.....things that she found out on her own, by accident. She left for 5 days, we barely talked. She would not accept apology, she doubted in my faith, she doubted my past was past. Intense anger was present in our home for a good month. We slept separately for that time. What did we do? we DID NOT divorce. We both know God never intended divorce. We prayed to the Lord for eachother every night, but mainly for the Lord to work in us individually, and worked on our personal relationships with Him. We sought out BIBLICAL counseling. What did the counseler do? Well he started in Genesis 2, and from there we walked through scripture on guidance to what we must do. I learned that secrets destroy, lies destroy, deceit destroys. My wife learned that by kicking me out of the room she was punishing me by using the marriage bed as her personal space. After a month we came together again, and she was able to forgive me. We are now in a couple's small group learning more about Biblical marriage than we ever knew.
During that time did part of me want to fear that we would never come out on the other side? YES did she? YES But with prayer, searching the scripture, working on our personal relationships with the Lord, and Biblical support from those around us we found the light at the end of the tunnel and our marriage now is better than it ever was.
Nobody but God could have brought us through.
Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.