Could use some advice please.
In just about two months, I am going to be a 30-year old man and I have a problem and *really* need some advice. My place of work is moving in January 2013. That is a problem for me since I don't have a car. I also am very short on cash, so even if they were not moving, I am kinda going to be in a tough spot regardless.
My lease for my current apartment is not going to be up until February and I am going to have to car-pool with a co-worker in the mean time who lives nearby when work moves and I'd have to kick in for gas money. And if I were to say - Stay at my current apartment or move back in with my parents forever, I'd have to spend the rest of my life depending on my co-worker to drive me, and I know that cannot be a permanent thing. I have to be independent. So....should I just live with my parents for a little while...as in longer then six months and take cabs to work or should I live with my parents for six months, save money, depend on co-workers to drive me to work, THEN move into another apartment that is close to the new location where I can walk to work from that point on?
There are pros and cons to both and I will name just a few below. (If you'd like to go ahead and skip the rest of this post, that is fine, but I thought I should add some of the pros and cons.)
Pros for living with my parents - I don't have to worry about money ever again - I can travel to places I always dreamed of going to such as England, NYC, Amish Country, etc. I can also buy an awesome 3-D TV, and can buy pricey Halloween stuff since I love Halloween.
The cons - I'm a grown man living with his parents. And essentially I would become a major man-child.
As far as how I would have to get to work - Again, after bumming rides from co-workers for a while, I know I'd have to start taking a taxi and since money would know longer be a problem for me, it would be alright and I could just use my credit card to pay for rides.
Pros to the apartment - After living with my parents for six months, I could save mony, and move out. The rent at the new apartment is a little cheaper then my current apartment, and the walk to my work would not be nearly as long as it currently is. I currently have to walk for thirty minutes to get to my job, but the new walk would only be roughly fifteen minutes and I could walk back and fourth during the day. i.e. During lunch. Whereas if I lived with my parents, I'd have to bring my lunch and stay at work all day, and never get to leave.
Cons - The apartment is faaaaar away from all my family and friends and I'd be all alone, which could be seen as a good or bad thing. i.e. I have to learn to depend on myself more and could build some character. I mean, people over ten years younger then me move away to new cities for college all the time. But there are no grocery stores near-by though for me to walk to. I'd probably have to get a deep freezer and get together with family members, and go to the store once a month, and just stock up on stuff. I also could not enjoy any "fun" stuff at all. All money would have to go towards rent and bills.
This is a very tough choice. My heart tells me I need to be a man, and not leach off my parents. I am almost 30-years old. I shouldn't rely on "Mommy and Daddy" to carry me in life, ya know? I am gonna be 40 one day perhaps, and I just hate to become like those guys from "Step Brothers". But you also only live once and trips to London, England and watching 3D TV's, and owning movie quality Halloween costumes sound kinda fun. lol.
I need to make the right choice. It's so symbolic that I am faced with this choice at the exact same time that I approach a new chapter in my life - My thirties, and it is also an election year which adds to the symbolism of it all. When I first moved out of my parents house almost four years ago, it was also election time. In closing, I admit, I am not the man I wish I could be, but it is what it is and I have to work with what I have so if anyone can nicely tell me what they think I should do, it would help me a lot.