Advice on dealing with family is requested
I'm not sure if this is the right place to post, sorry.
I should start by saying that I'm 35, married to my best friend, and have 3 kids who are well-adjusted, well-behaved, and a joy to be around. I grew up in a household that was staunchly christian. We went to church Sunday morning, Sunday night, and Wednesday night. Since most of my family are musicians, we also played in the church band and went to practices on thursday that, more often than not, turned into prayer sessions.
I was bored my whole life. Church really isn't any fun. How many times do we need to hear that we're going to hell if we don't believe in god?
I asked questions from the time I was a little kid, and was always directed to THE BIBLE as the absolute end-all of answers. To make a long story short: I don't believe any of that, and I really never did. I've told my folks about my beliefs (or lack thereof) and while they weren't thrilled, they always sorta quietly accepted it. Until yesterday.
My oldest daughter had gotten into trouble for something dumb (not cleaning her room, so she got grounded for a day) and I called my father to ask his advice on one aspect of dealing with her. his IMMEDIATE response was "Well, FIRST of all, you need Jesus in your family. This whole business of you not raising them in the church is crap. They're OUR grandkids too, and we're going to teach them about God, whether you like it or not."
My response was basically, "Go ahead. I'm going to teach them that it's the same thing as the easter bunny, or santa. I'm going to tell them that you guys believe in it, and it works for you, but they need to ultimately make their own decisions on life."
His response? "You need SCRIPTURE as a basis for all of your teachings. How are they supposed to learn that killing is wrong? Or rape? Or drugs?" Gee Dad, the same way everyone ELSE learns: by teaching them.
When he first went off, I was silent. I just let him rant. I ALWAYS do that. I love my father, and my whole family, but man... I wouldn't let anyone ELSE rant at me like that. But now, I'm down on myself because, hey, I'm 35, with my own family. I wanted advice from my ol' man on my daughter... not a sermon. How do you tell your folks that Enough is Enough? It sucks.
Sorry for the whining. I have NO other Atheist people to talk to here in Buffalo. None.
My philosophy, in essence, is the concept of man as a heroic being, with his own happiness as the moral purpose of his life, with productive achievement as his noblest activity, and reason as his only absolute