Can someone teach me how not to be a coward when it comes to telling people I don't believe in God?
I need to ramble some, but I have put in bold the parts that I hope others will read, and offer advice:
I'm a 28-year old man, and four years ago I went from being a Christian to an Atheist, now an Agnostic. I live in a pretty Christian area where I'm from, and sometimes I've had to tell people I am not a believer. Over the years, it's been easier to tell people I am Agnostic, but I always feel a little nervous beforehand, and have to quickly build up the nerve, and I still question the best way in going about in telling people, and I would prefer to do it in a way that is not so passive.
Sometimes I just ignore someone when they talk about God, or at the most, I tell them I'm not really a religious guy, but maybe I'll get back into it one day. To be honest - I would prefer just to say I'm Agnostic, and that's it, and avoid the desire to ramble anymore about it. And if I just have to say something to ease the tension, I'd like to say "But I keep an open-mind".
I use to hate confrontation, and I still do, but I will face confrontation if I need to. My motivation for being brave is the fact that I know if I am not brave, me being a coward will knaw on my mind later, and I'll forever replay it in my head, and never ever forgive myself, so in order to get peace, I know I sometimes have to be brave. I also know that I can win many battles with my mind and words alone, so those are my weapons.
(As much as I love my Mother, she is the reason why I was a coward for so long and even to this day, still am forever fighting with myself to be a man. But that's another issue, and I could really rant about that, so I'll stop. Really, I feel ashamed for this thread alone. It's not always easy asking for help, but this forum has for the most part been helpful and understanding, especially in regards of topics like these.)
One of the hardest things about being me is that I'm a nice guy. I admit, I use too be VERY passive, but since being in my mid-twenties to now, I am now passive-aggressive so I like to think I am moving up some.
It's not just a case of me being a sissy by the way, but also the fact that I honestly do like being a nice guy, and don't enjoy offending others and prefer to live in peace. But I still would prefer to be a nice guy and just ignore rude people if able, but I know sadly that unless you play by the rules of others, that can't happen, and their rules may not be for you. One of the secrets I've learned is NEVER let others know you are scared/nervous, or you could be in trouble. I think people thinking I have mental issues is better then letting them know I'm acting like a chicken.
I know this much - I know am not a coward. I think everyone has their fears, and I've faced my different fears MANY times, and I think by admitting to this one and asking for help proves I have guts.
Alright, having said all that - What is the nicest way to tell someone I am Agnostic, but not coming across as poor soul who needs God? And do you think saying "I'm Agnostic" outloud to myself a few times would come in handy?