i am being threatened

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i am being threatened

i don't know how serious to take this.

since my divorce, i have a new girlfriend. she has an ex boyfriend who is very roman catholic. i got these messages on facebook: (names changed to protect the "innocent".)
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jesus freak:
You shall know that I am the Lord when I lay my vengeance upon thee. April 9 at 7:05pm


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me:i am not adverse to restraining orders and jail time for anyone that even implies a threat at me. careful what you say. these messages are time stamped and are admissible in a court of law.


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jesus freak:
And I saw, and behold, a pale horse, and it's rider's name was Death, and Hell followed him.


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me:oh, got it. (girlfriend) didn't tell me how ridiculous you were. silly little man. too funny. gonna block you now, after printing this out for the restraining order. bye bye little man.


,br> jesus freak: (girlfriend) did tell me about your homosexual tendencies though. I guess that can be expected.
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me:

sorry, i am straight, you should look to your priests for that sort of outlet.


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 I've learned the hard

 I've learned the hard way... twice.  People with mental problems are dangerous.  Keep your distance, get a restraining order if it makes you feel better, don't taunt him, avoid him, ignore him, be careful.  It's not worth it and it's the only way you can be sure he wont end up in a rage moment when you're around.

 


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 i don't know how serious

 

can't fix the text block in first post. she says he has a gun.

good advice, thank you. interested in hearing your "twice" if you are willing.

it was easy to slip into taunt mode, i'm going to stop that.


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It's not a direct threat per

It's not a direct threat per say, of course the message is implied.  I would avoid him if that's easier, otherwise make sure you have enough information.  If you really think he'll do something, talk to a police officer.  Sometimes they can just make a phone call to 'ask for information' and that may be enough.  I'm speaking from experience here.  Crazy people are very unpredictable, and you have very little control over the situation in that regard, if this guy is serious, your best defense may be to find out as much information as you can about him.

 

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beardedinlair wrote: i don't

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i don't know how serious to take this.

Report him to the police, and he'll learn how serious it is...

I keep asking myself " Are they just playin' stupid, or are they just plain stupid?..."

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right, but what can i

right, but what can i report? "he quoted scripture at me on facebook?"

well, he didn't accurately quote, cause he left out the book and chapter and verse.


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Sounds like he sound be back

Sounds like he sound be back on his meds.

 

 

 


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beardedinlair wrote:right,

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right, but what can i report? "he quoted scripture at me on facebook?"

well, he didn't accurately quote, cause he left out the book and chapter and verse.

Cops are not stupid, they see this shit all the time.  You can just lay out the situation, if he has a violent past, the cop will at least call him to do a fact check.  That's usually enough to discourage further interaction.  You have to stop taunting him if you go that route though.  In Canada they can arrest you for uttering a death threat.  I'm not sure what the law is down there.  One of my buddies spent a few nights in jail in a similar situation (he was the crazy ex boyfriend).

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beardedinlair wrote:right,

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right, but what can i report? "he quoted scripture at me on facebook?"

The guy is taunting you, and using powerful language, meant to intimidate.

At the very least, it could be considered a 'tort'

Talk to a lawyer.

Or.....hope he's not off his nut, and doesn't go 'postal' because his ex is playing 'hide the salami' with you, instead of him...

I keep asking myself " Are they just playin' stupid, or are they just plain stupid?..."

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 OK, a few points here:  

 

OK, a few points here:

 

My family is mostly cops. You can report this stuff but that does not mean that they will file paperwork on the matter. They might but you should not count on it.

 

Find a lawyer, preferably not an ambulance chaser. He will take your calls and print out face book pages as needed. He will also want a few bucks each time but that is what it is.

 

You have said that you are ex military. I don't recall if you mentioned an MOS but that is a point to consider. Many of the MOS are people who are not trivially fucked with. If that is you then you need to consider that as a fact.

 

Drunk messing with people may get some people a lesser sentence when it comes up. Drunk messing with people when you are trained to do bad things may count against you should it happen.

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  be careful

 

 

be careful brother......

 


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 Caution is good.  Human

 Caution is good.  Human beings are the only animals that I'm scared of.  Hope everything works out for you.  


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 With all the cautioners I

 With all the cautioners I thought I should follow up... don't fear, just be smart.  Smart=cautious and careful about your proximity to this person.  Don't be fearful, that would be dumb as that is what he wants you to feel.  If you live in fear then you've already been beaten.

 


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thanks guys. all great

thanks guys. all great advice. i'm going to lay low, and not let my ego get involved.

those comments about my training i am totally going to apply. i didn't even think of that. I have had deadly force training. Got to be careful.

something you guys will find interesting perhaps, he sent her a text saying that i was not important and ordered her to not talk to me anymore cause they were still a couple. what i find interesting is in spite of evidence to the contrary, he believes they are still involved in some way.


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beardedinlair wrote:good

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good advice, thank you. interested in hearing your "twice" if you are willing.

Sapient:same here, although it is sympathetic if you don't wish to drag personal drama into public.

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something you guys will find interesting perhaps, he sent her a text saying that i was not important and ordered her to not talk to me anymore cause they were still a couple. what i find interesting is in spite of evidence to the contrary, he believes they are still involved in some way.

I'd be concerned what her having been with him, says about her...

I keep asking myself " Are they just playin' stupid, or are they just plain stupid?..."

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redneF wrote:I'd be

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I'd be concerned what her having been with him, says about her...

also... do you want chicks with ex-bf baggage?

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I would guess it's probably

I would guess it's probably nothing but a moron, however did she just come out for no reason and say he has a gun? That might be worrying and probably make the whole thing worth reporting to the police.

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Kapkao wrote:beardedinlair

Kapkao wrote:

beardedinlair wrote:

good advice, thank you. interested in hearing your "twice" if you are willing.

Sapient:same here, although it is sympathetic if you don't wish to drag personal drama into public.

 

Well this is #1: http://www.rationalresponders.com/greydonsquare

#2 is a little less known, and with no violence, but I want to respect the privacy of the other person because it's less known.

 


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Sapient wrote:Kapkao

Sapient wrote:

Kapkao wrote:

beardedinlair wrote:

good advice, thank you. interested in hearing your "twice" if you are willing.

Sapient:same here, although it is sympathetic if you don't wish to drag personal drama into public.

 

Well this is #1: http://www.rationalresponders.com/greydonsquare

#2 is a little less known, and with no violence, but I want to respect the privacy of the other person because it's less known.

 

#1:Ugh

 

Thanks

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beardedinlair

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something you guys will find interesting perhaps, he sent her a text saying that i was not important and ordered her to not talk to me anymore cause they were still a couple.

That sounds like she might be in danger as well.

 

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I told her to block him on

I told her to block him on facebook, and her phone, and if he shows up at her house, call the police immediately.

As for her beliefs, I am trying to get the bible out of her hand. I'm doing a fairly good job of it. I think I can show her how agnostism (spelling?) makes more logical clear sense.