Atheist Homophobia: Oxymoronic?
So the recent masturbation post--and a few other things that won't come as much of a surprise to anyone--made me curious about something. I'm surprised there's so much homophobia in here. I'm not saying that there's more of it here than in any other random forum, or that it's the same amount, I'm not even saying there isn't LESS of it here than other places. What I'm saying is that I'm surprised there isn't less of it here than I've noticed.
As much as I think it's absurd coming from theists, at least I can understand what they think their reasons are for feeling that way: "cuz gawd sez so." That's good enough for them. I'm used to it coming from religious people who've been indoctrinated into a way of thinking that makes them feel safe. But from an atheist, especially someone who concerns himself with the rational facts (I think my use of the male pronoun it's understandable), I can't really imagine what could justify it. I'd like to understand how that works. It seems somewhat oxymoronic to me.
I don't buy it that the reason I'm not freaked out by women flirting with me or flirting with them back (innocently), is because that's "expected" behavior. I know plenty of gay men who'd shriek in terror at the thought of a vagina, and I know why. Because a lot of us come from backgrounds where our identities are in question or at risk: "have you tried NOT being a mutant?" This is even more acute for lesbians, from my experience. So along those lines, my first inclination is to suspect it derives from some ingrained insecurity. I'm comfortable with who I am, and flirting--even having relations TMI--never made me straight, it's just harmless fun.
I'm also not making this post to attack anyone for being uncomfortable with teh buttsecks. But I'd like to ask the rational, atheist straight guys in here who are squeamish about this stuff: if not for "religious morality" reasons, then why? It's been my impression that most of the people in here are unconcerned about what others (namely the religious majority) think about who they are (being perfectly willing to tell a stranger, etc.), so why is this different? In other words, "I don't like being thought of as something I'm not" isn't really valid if you don't care what others think, first of all, and secondly, are secure with who you are.