Why does jealousy have a bad reputation?

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Why does jealousy have a bad reputation?

For odd personal reasons, I don't understand why so many people consider jealousy a bad thing. If Woman A felt jealous towards me because she thought I had lost interest in her in favor of some other Woman B, her emotional reaction would show that Woman A valued me and feared losing me. I would have to consider that an impressive compliment of sorts.

Regarding the "odd personal reasons," I've never had a Woman A in my life. If anything, I've had some anti-Woman A's who've said things like "Leave me alone or I'll call the police." Eye-wink I would find it refreshing to witness a Woman A's jealousy some day.

 


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For odd personal reasons, I don't understand why so many people consider jealousy a bad thing. If Woman A felt jealous towards me because she thought I had lost interest in her in favor of some other Woman B, her emotional reaction would show that Woman A valued me and feared losing me. I would have to consider that an impressive compliment of sorts.

Regarding the "odd personal reasons," I've never had a Woman A in my life. If anything, I've had some anti-Woman A's who've said things like "Leave me alone or I'll call the police." Eye-wink I would find it refreshing to witness a Woman A's jealousy some day.

 

If you want a chick to go all Fatal Attraction or Single White Female on you, then jealousy can suck hard and can mean your untimely death.  Jealousy isn't necessarily a negative thing, but if in the hands of someone with mental instability, then you're in big trouble.

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Jealousy is a gateway drug

Jealousy is a gateway drug to bunny boiling.

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I've also wondered how some

I've also wondered how some individuals get into these "polyamorous" situations and claim to make them work while managing jealousy. For example, not many people know that the man who created Wonder Woman, a psychologist named William Marston, apparently lived in a poly triad with two women:

www.reason.com/news/show/28014.html

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Marston’s personal life was every bit as unconventional as his ideas about matriarchy; if nothing else, the details make one wonder about his fixation on liberated women. In 1915, the same year he graduated from Harvard, Marston married a Mt. Holyoke grad named Elizabeth Holloway, who went on to earn an M.A. and law degree, and to assist him in his psychological research. In the late ’20s, when teaching at Tufts University, Marston met a student named Olive Richard, who moved in with him and his wife.

Marston had two children by each woman and he and his wife formally adopted his children by Richard. "It was an arrangement where they [all] lived together fairly harmoniously," one of Marston’s sons told Daniels. A business associate vouched for Marston’s offbeat arrangement, remembering him as "the most remarkable host, with a lovely bunch of kids from different wives...all living together like one big family -- everybody very happy and all good, decent people."

I haven't found any reference to Marston's religious beliefs, but it wouldn't surprise me if he identified himself as an atheist. (I don't get a crypto-Mormon vibe from what I've read about him.)