Help-- not in the dramtic sense.
First, I apologize if this is in the wrong forum. From looking around, I took my best guess as to the place so here I am. I joined a year and a half ago-- had some good posts and then didn't get too involved. It was nothing personal, I'm a message forum enthusiast, I just, well, I just had my atheist beliefs, came here and found a lot of what I think and that was that.
But I think I've finally come to a point where I need some advice from my atheist brethren (and sisthren). Cause, Lord knows (I love doing that by the way), I can't find it in my regular circle of friends. I won't delve into, and ask you not to do the same becuase I was converted before I read the words, the "wrongness" of critisizing anything "religious," but we all know it exists. I can make fun of Santa Claus all day but the minute I, forget make fun of, question christianity I'm an asshole. Discussion for another time.
So here's what I need help with. If you haven't already gotten it-- I'm an atheist. At best an Einsteinian pantheist. But bottom line is there's no man (woman) and he's not guiding my life. However, my wife and I agreed a long time ago that we understood and accepted some of the benefits of religion. Look, the more I educate myself the more foolish a statement that sounds, but even Dawkins will allow that there are SOME benefits. Although he'd go on to show that the bad FAR outweighs the good. But I digress. Where was I? Oh, yes, my wife and children.
So, my wife... and to set the stage-- she has no problem with my atheism. As a matter of fact from what I've shared with her, she probably gets what/where I'm coming from. But... she is committed to that regular Sunday morning, good for the kids, communal... lets go to church, sing songs, go to bible school, see 99% of the other kids in our community thing. And, at this point (children are 5 and 3) I'm not too bothered by it either. I, admittedly, am a cultural christian and nothing's going to change that.
But... just yesterday I started thinking about guilt. Religious guilt. And I started thinking (I'm educated) that, holy shit, this is EXACTLY the time that this stuff will be imprinted on the psyche of my children. I started this kinda idealistic thinking along the lines of Lennon (John) "Imagine there's no..." and thought, "Jesus (again I love to do that as an atheist), I have the power to save my children from this."
But then... it's back to my wife. Again, she supports my thoughts. Doesn't mind my not going to church or only attending special functions. She knows that we won't give a DIME to the church. Although once every three months she's responsible for coffee and donuts-- I'm okay with that-- I belong to a golf club and that's my responsibility once in a while too. But here's the thing. I'd love to bring her on board. But, as much as I love her, she's not a thinker.
That's not to say she's dumb. She's very smart. Maybe I should have said "she's not a philosophical thinker."
I don't know-- we're far from trouble, I just thought I'd put it here as some of you must have had to deal with the same thing. Thanks.
Regrettably, yes. But it is, you know, a sacrifice required for the future of the human race. I hasten to add that since each man will be required to do prodigious... service along these lines, the women will have to be selected for their sexual character