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JillSwift wrote:Your best

Submitted by Kevin R Brown on April 13, 2008 - 1:38am.

JillSwift wrote:

Your best bet will be to re-assure her that you're there for her, that you concern is for her happiness, that you're not going to judge... Basically avoid worrying about the JW stuff for now. She thinks this is fulfilling some need and her first reaction to anything resembling resistance will be to fight, as would be expected if one were to keep anyone from fulfilling a need. I'm sure the JWs are preying on that, too. The whole religious/cult thing is to be the special ones who know better, and those standing against them are evil and to be avoided. You don't want to play into that.

You'll want to make it impossible for them to have an excuse for cutting you off from contact with your sister. That is key, because once the novelty of it all wears off and she can see the corrosion and stains under the shiny parts, and she has a moment of doubt, you'll need to be there to support that doubt and support her so she never feels like abandoning the JWs will mean being alone.

Love her, be very patient, and stay in contact with her. Never fight her need for the delusion - when the time is right make it about the people in the cult, not her beliefs. Always be someone she can count on.

When my sister flirted with joining a Penetente cult, I kept my patience by saying "At least it's not Scientology". Smiling

I have to echo this. If you start fighting this right now, you'll create an adversarial relationship between you and your sister - and going to 'debate' with the cultists is playing into their hands. The point isn't going to be the content of the arguments - it's going to be that your sister will be arguing with them, against you, manufacturing a rift in your relationship. Your sister will then be face with a false dillemma; either 'joining' with you, isolated on your side of the fence, or staying in the warmth and company of her new 'benefactors'.

Let her know you care about her, support the decision, and - this really bears repeating - fucking be there if/when she has a crisis of faith and begins to doubt.

Henchman of reason, intellect, logics, and facts

aka, 'Plant Boy'

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